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Everyone now has their own space!

So, this is a post about the recent big project in our house.  It’s not about migraines, but then again, it may be, because the calm that has resulted in each of my daughters having their own space may contribute to less stress, and possibly migraine relief!

We have three kids and a three bedroom house.  My two daughters share a room, and up until recently had a bunk bed.  The problem came when the younger wanted the top bunk, which the older of the two had dibs on and occupied for a couple of years already.  Basically, both girls needed a top bunk.  Two loft beds.  The problem was there was no easy fix for their room, because their room does not have one full wall.  Each wall either has closets, windows, or doors.  Lots of brainstorming later, we came up with the idea that if we moved the door from the right hand side of the room into the center of the room, a bed could come out from that portion where the door used to be.

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Before we busted out the wall and moved the door, I scanned tons of websites full of L shaped loft beds, all were either crazy expensive, or just didn’t fully meet what we wanted.  We came up with about 4 pretty close to what we were looking for pictures, and ended up combining them to result in two L shaped loft beds, both with a desk the full length of the bed underneath, and a bookcase on the left side of the end of the desk.  My husband did all the work, did an awesome job, and they turned out beautifully.  I don’t think he will ever go into the furniture business, even though it only took about a week to complete the beds, it’s not an instant gratification process!

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Here’s the almost finished product without the bookcases (and before we realized we needed to add another slat to the bed area for safety):

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And here’s the fully finished product:

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Two super happy girls, with their own space.  They have been hanging out on their beds, reading, listening to music, almost like they have their own rooms!  Totally worth living in shambles with their room contents strewn throughout our house and their mattresses in our room for two weeks!

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Block Parenting

Two out of three of my kids respond the same when it comes to reasoning or explaining about something, and discipline.  The other child marches to the beat of their own drum.

As I try over and over without success in the same ways with this one child, as I do the two others, it is often left unresolved, and there are feelings of frustration, and at times tears (usually mine).

Today I feel like I may be on to something…

I pictured one of those baby toys that my kids had when they were little, it was red and blue, and had yellow shaped blocks that you placed inside.   You could only put the correct shape in the correct hole, or else, of course, it wouldn’t fit.

 

In using a block toy as an analogy to parenting my kids, I subconsciously continue to fit lets say a triangle into a circle shaped hole.  I continue to get frustrated, and it just doesn’t work out.  In the end, I get afraid that the triangle edges may even get a little chipped along the way as I try to fit it into the circle shaped hole.  Not a good plan.

I feel like maybe some curtains have opened up and I am seeing a little clearer all of a sudden.  That I need to really be conscious of the fact that one out of three of my kids may best respond in a way that the other two do not.

I have three really awesome kids who are funny, full of life, and kind.  We all try to do our best at this job of parenting with the end result hoping to be a kid with the least amount of (theoretical) chips on their blocks.  Here’s to keeping the curtains open and trying to see what fits best.