I find myself telling my kids as they are getting older things that my friends and I have been telling each other for years. As they are facing challenges and disappointments that come with an increasing age, I have found myself giving them the tools of ‘it will be better in 5 minutes’, and ‘the first day is the hardest, it will get a bit easier every day after.’
As my middle child went to middle school for her intro half day last week, she was nervous of course. My words to her were, ‘focus on 12:08 when the school day is over, at that time, it will no longer be new, and no longer be as scary.’
And after the conversations with my children are done, I then start telling myself the same things. Man, this worrying about your kids thing just gets harder and harder with some of the things growing older presents.
There were times in my life that I couldn’t see around the moment I was in in order to see the possibilities of the future. And only through living life have I learned, that it really is better in 5 minutes, and the second day is usually easier than the first.
So, I will continue to tell my kids, and I mean it when I say ‘it will all be ok, I promise.’
As school starts tomorrow, and I look into my crystal ball and see myself waking up repeatedly throughout tonights sleep, I will tell myself as I often do in the middle of the night ‘everything is ok’ and allow myself to go back to sleep.
I hope the little things I say (mantras?) that help me move on and not get too tripped up on things actually help my kids rather than make me resemble Bob Wiley more and more. They humor me at least making me feel as though they do help! 🙂
With the first day of school comes the enjoyment of a routine (and a quiet house), which will only too soon be replaced with missing the kids and wishing for summer to return quickly!
Here’s to a safe school year, and strength to all of the wonderful teachers that spend each day teaching our kids!